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Relational Canvassing (Friend Network, Low-Pressure)

Use when: you want persuasion without becoming overbearing.
Goal: one honest conversation, one small ask, protect the relationship.

Principles

• DM > comments
• Ask questions before sharing facts
• No humiliation, no pile-ons
• Exit early if it turns into a fight

The 3–2–1 structure

3 questions

1. “How are you feeling about things lately?”
2. “What’s your biggest worry right now (costs, safety, fairness, chaos)?”
3. “What would you want to see improve in the next year?”

2 stories (short, human)

• One personal story (why you care)
• One community story (what you’ve seen)

1 ask

Pick one:

• make a voting plan
• read one source you trust
• come to one local meeting
• do one small volunteer shift

Correction without shaming (if needed)

• “I might be wrong, but I checked this because I’m trying to avoid getting pulled around by inflammatory claims…”
• Share one source, one sentence takeaway.

Inoculation line (pre-bunk manipulation)

Use this before the conversation gets hijacked:

• “I’m trying to stay anchored in something checkable. Can we use one source we both trust, even if we disagree?”

The two-realities protocol

If the conversation is running on incompatible information systems:

• “Ok, we might be living in different info systems. I do not want to fight. I’m going to step back.”

That is not surrender. It is how you stop feeding a fight that cannot produce a useful next step.

Exit line (protect the bond)

“I’m not trying to win an argument. I’m trying to do one useful thing and stay human.”

Definition of done

Leave with:

1. one real conversation
2. one small ask
3. one note in the log about what landed or failed

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